Handling anger

 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27

Though you may not immediately think of yourself as such, every single one of us is a leader. While “leadership” as an industry may often be targeted toward business executives or other high-powered white-collar jobs, when leadership is seated within the context of discipleship, it is closely linked to living a holy life worthy of imitation and, therefore, deeply applicable to everyone. 

As leaders, each of us has a “sphere” of influence within which we live our daily lives, and often there are several related yet distinct spheres: work, church, home, etc. Within each of these, our leadership is lived out in the context of relationships, people with whom we laugh and love, serve and honor, respect and forgive. In this way, leadership is never an abstract set of ideals or principles but is always rooted in our lived experiences with others. In truth, just as it is impossible to know ourselves in isolation, leadership is only possible when we commit ourselves to the life of community and relational intimacy, celebrating the vulnerability required to be known and know others.

Within this life of community, one of the most essential traits of any faithful leader is the ability and willingness to keep short accounts. With the words of Psalm 4:4 on his mind, Paul in Ephesians 4 reminds this community of faith to “not let the sun go down on (their) anger.” Of course, this is easier said than done, and there may be times in which our anger lasts well beyond a single night, blazing out of control and threatening to overtake our entire being. And yet, we must never lose sight of the principle behind these words: the longer our passions rage, the harder it is to reign them in, and the greater the devastation upon the life of our communities. 

Though reconciliation requires all parties to move toward one another in love, today, we are invited, to the extent we are able, to model and embody a way of life that is quick to see our own faults, and equally quick to model repentance and restoration wherever it is needed. Faithful leaders are never expected to be perfect. In fact, the best leaders are deeply aware of their faults, yet thrive when they acknowledge these shortcomings and model for the rest of the community a lifestyle of repentance and humility, knowing this is the way that leads to life.

Emotional check

 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32

While the internet is a useful tool to share encouragement, kindness and love, have you also noticed there’s a whole lot-o hate online? People shaming one another, lashing out, and using sarcasm and bullying to put down one another. We as believers prayerfully realize that such division grieves God’s heart.

“How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity” (Psalm 133:1)!

Maybe we’ve been on the receiving end of someone’s unkind, or even blatantly nasty, sentiments, or perhaps we’ve gotten angry and lashed out at others now and then too. Regardless of which describes us, maybe we feel we need to do better; we need to either love more when we are attacked, or we need to be slow to get angry and slow to respond. 

The good news is that as believers in Christ we have the amazing honor of bringing peace into the world by how we relate to others, off and on social media. And (good news) our responses can bring us peace too. 

I would like to encourage you with some positive actions to take when online exchanges become unpleasant.   

The first thing to remember is not to allow our negative emotions to boss us around. The minute we allow any ungodly feelings to guide us in our response to someone who has been unkind or insulting, the other person immediately has control over us. And when they have control over us, we will not be productive in solving the relational problem at hand because our emotions will blind us to what is really happening. Additionally, we will also not be able to be a good witness for Christ. 

So, this means that when someone comes against you with an insult, or expresses an opinion with which you strongly disagree, you may feel angry, and you may want to lash out, but you must remember not to give your emotions permission to rule the show. 

James 1:19 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry . . .”

When someone insults you or says something rude, your immediate response may be to quickly tap out a nasty message back and tell them how horrible, rude, uninformed, ignorant, or stupid they are. You may be tempted to share an “enlightening” sarcastic statement to put them in their place.

But this is not the way of the wise. Instead, being wise means being slow to answer. Being slow in this way will give you the space you need to decide what to do; it will help you clearly assess what the person means, and it will keep you from being blinded by strong ungodly feelings.  

So instead of immediately responding, get up out of your chair or move away from your phone and let the situation sit for a while. Things often make more sense later when we walk away so our emotions can cool down. While we are waiting to respond, ask God to provide you with insight into the situation and what the person said. Then ask Him what to say. Perhaps you can respond in such a way that brings light, wisdom, and grace into the interaction. Or, perhaps the Lord will show you that you shouldn’t respond at all as some people only want to wrangle and there can never be peace with them.

Always remember “emotions are like children. It’s OK to let them ride in the car with you, but do not let them drive.” or feelings are like a cold you catch them but eventually get over them, and if you don't it can eventually kill you. When it comes to dealing with negative online interactions, how true these statement are. 

Love leads us

 The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want; he makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters; he restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Psalm 23:1-3

I read a story about 1,500 sheep in Turkey who went over a cliff, simply because one sheep decided to jump and all the others, one at a time, decided to follow. Interestingly, only 400 of the sheep actually died, with the other 1,100 having their fall cushioned by the first 400. Crazy as this story may seem and sound, it perfectly speaks to our need for a shepherd in our lives.

The word of God often uses sheep and shepherding imagery, with us as the sheep and the Lord as our Good Shepherd. Interestingly, the word of God never makes the point that we are stupid like sheep. We are made in the image and likeness of God, yet we are in desperate need of someone to lead us, and active and intentional leading is precisely what a good faithful shepherd is called to do.

I admit that my severely limited experience with livestock distorts my understanding of the shepherd’s role. I think of shepherds as fairly passive people, taking a nap under a tree on a sleepy afternoon while the sheep graze idly in the field. If I’m honest, poems like Psalm 23 play into this vision, with its singsong poetry that calms and soothes the soul, causing me to miss the fundamentally active nature of that psalm: “he leads me beside still waters.”

A shepherd’s primary job is one of leading, guiding, and protecting those under their care. From the sheep’s perspective, this may often feel confusing and even frustrating, yet if we believe that the shepherd is good and trustworthy, he will lead us to places that we, in and of ourselves, are unable to go. He will show us streams of living water that we would never have known existed had he not led us there.

Following Jesus in this season, for us, may feel painful and confusing. We may want to resist and push against the arduous and treacherous path He has us on. Remember this: Jesus isn’t here to simply validate our decisions or preferred future. He knows our “wisdom” may lead us straight off a cliff. No, He’s here to lead us and at times will ask us to do hard things. We must count the cost of discipleship and choose daily to surrender to Him and learn the freedom that comes from following Him as he leads.

Something about our will

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12

 It is remarkably easy for our wills to be directed by our emotions, rather than our emotions directed by our wills. 

More often than I may care to admit, I find that my willingness to live a life directed and animated by the life of Christ is fickle and dependent upon how I feel in any given moment. If I’m having a good day or encouraged in my faith, I press on in faithful living. Yet if I feel discouraged, disheartened, or derailed, it is terribly easy to allow these emotions to impact, not only how I feel, but how I live.

The Apostle Paul was fully aware of this temptation that we all face, and in his letter to Timothy encourages him, not to “follow his heart” or simply act as he feels, but to live a willed and disciplined life in which he can daily decide to “set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” What might it look like if we did the same?

Often we shy away from the idea of being an example for others. It may feel arrogant or presumptuous. We are all too aware of the sin that remains within our hearts, the sickness that has yet to be fully healed, so how could we possibly claim to be an example for others to follow? Remember this: no one is expecting you to be an example of perfection. The example we are called to set is one of humility, repentance, and love. And though our emotions have a part to play, even a significant part, they do not call the shots. 

We are able, imperfect as we may be, to wake up every morning and direct our wills toward the way of Christ, and resolve afresh to set an example, modeling for those around us a way of living that is shaped and animated, not by the ever-changing whims and fancies of our fickle hearts, but by the virtues and values of the Kingdom of God.

The believers pilgrimage

If they had been thinking of that land from which they had gone out, they would have had opportunity to return. But as it is, they desire a better country, that is, a heavenly one. Therefore, God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared for them a city. Hebrews 11:15-16, ESV

A friend of mine recently walked a portion of the Camino. The Camino de Santiago, or The Way of James, originates in France and concludes in northern Spain and has been a popular spiritual pilgrimage for believers since the 10th century. The plan was to hike a portion of the route for eight days, 14 miles a day. Traverse up and down hills in the heat of the sun and through the cool of the forest for much-needed shade. Some days their energy level was high and their spirits exhilarated, and other days it was almost impossible to take one more step with noodle legs and tired achy feet. Roadside cafes, spartan hotels, and the company of others infused the necessary physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual strength to push ahead. This sounds like life doesn't it we are all journeying together, encouraging each other through pain and joy, fear and hope, quitting or pushing on toward our goals.  

The writer of Hebrews, who is probably the Apostle Paul, describes followers of Jesus as those on a journey through life to a city prepared for them by God. These people of faith followed hard after heaven, not turning back to their old way of living…for they had found a much better way. Not better in the sense of easier, but better knowing that the Lord was leading their lives and His presence and purpose were superior to submitting to the much lesser gods and idols whose destination was destruction. As followers of Jesus, we are passing through life as “tent dwellers,” but the City of God awaits all who are faithful. Charles Spurgeon captures this imagery: 

'We know that this earthly house of our' tent 'shall be dissolved, but we have a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.' 'He has prepared a city.' A city is a place of genial associations. In a lonely hamlet, one has little company. In a city, especially where all the inhabitants shall be united in one glorious brotherhood… In a city such as this, there are plentiful occasions…where mutual interests shall enhance mutual joy.

If you are tempted to turn back from moving ahead in your journey with Jesus, make sure to assess what you are giving up. Peace for worry, security for insecurity, clarity for confusion, authentic faith for anemic faith, intimacy with God to estrangement from God, and heaven for earth. Perseverance is the mark of faithful believers who see suffering as an opportunity for deeper fellowship with Jesus and to trust the Lord during trials. Yes, life’s journey has very real pain, disappointments, loss, rejection by friends, unhealthy families, sin, sorrow and grief. Yet, along the same life journey, there are blessings galore: joy, forgiveness, healing and the hope of looking to our ultimate home in heaven. The promised land is ahead, where faith moves forward.

Christian pilgrims travel in community, looking to encourage one another in the faith and to help one another live a life that honors God. When one stumbles, the other is in close proximity to grab her hand before she falls. When one falls, there are two or three close by to pick him up and help restore him to a healthy path. When one’s burden is way too much for one person to handle, those who walk close to Christ help bear their brother or sister's burden and, in the process, live out the love of Christ. And hopefully, as all Jesus' followers journey together, they are drawing close to Jesus together. Walking with Jesus as a pilgrim is the best companion of all. He reminds His friends along the way to keep looking for a better city and, in the meantime, keep moving on.

Repentance

 Now after John was put in prison, Jesus came to Galilee, preaching the gospel of the kingdom of God, and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand. Repent, and believe in the gospel.”

Mark 1:14-15, NKJV

Repentance is both the beginning and end of the Christian life. By “end” I mean the aim toward which we move, the target that we set our hearts and lives upon without wavering or turning aside. As the 7th-century theologian Isaac the Syrian powerfully put it, “This life has been given to you for repentance; do not waste it in vain pursuits.”

This life has been given to you for repentance.

What do we make of such a statement? In truth, most of us believe (and act!) as though repentance is a one-off action, something done in the past that has little bearing upon our present or our future. Perhaps a singular moment of conversion comes to mind, a time in your life in which you made a definitive step toward Christ and away from a life of sin and death. For this we can give great thanks—Glory to God! Yet as often as our steps deviate from the narrow path of faith, repentance is needed to bring us back in alignment with the straight and narrow.

And for this reason, repentance is a posture and way of life from which we never advance.

To repent literally means to “change one’s mind.” It is an about-face, a turning away from one vision of life and turning to the world of Christ and his kingdom. Therefore, repentance is required each and every time our minds are captivated by a competing vision that offers purpose or meaning apart from an abiding life in Christ.

In order to “change your mind,” you must be aware of the thoughts, values, and beliefs that make their home in your mind. It is remarkably easy to live an unobserved life, one in which unhealthy habits and positions set up shop without us ever stopping to notice! As such, a key to a life of wisdom is to establish daily habits of reflection and evaluation. 

Ask yourself each morning: “In both small and potentially great ways, where is an about-face needed in my thoughts or actions?” “Are there ways my steps have deviated from the way of Christ?” “Are there unhealthy beliefs or patterns of behavior that were once isolated and limited but have now become a regular and consistent part of my daily life?”

Choose today to embrace a life of repentance and discover afresh the joy of turning away from darkness and toward the light and life of Christ.

“This life has been given to you for repentance; do not waste it in vain pursuits.”

Security

 Beloved, now are we children of God, and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be. 1 John 3:2

Uncertainty carries with it the baggage of being a bad thing, but what if instead we could  embrace the good in what will always be. There is no promise of tomorrow, yet we sometimes live our lives as if we have everything under control, only seeking the Lord when we feel out of control. What if instead, we accept the true condition of life’s uncertainties and submit to the certainty of Christ. Rest in what we know to be real, the ever-present Lord, and don’t  strive over the ever-changing dynamics of relationships, work and the world in general. Let’s consider a fresh look at uncertainty as a bridge to God’s heart, not baggage full of fear and worry.

John, the disciple of love, understood he was a work in process, not fully grasping the certainties of what Christ had for him. He knew he was a child of God, but the Lord had not yet fully revealed to him who he would ultimately become. He might have been reflecting on the words of Jesus when He wisely instructed the growing disciples of the process of maturing in the faith. Some truths are only learned and internalized over time. Wisdom is learned by exercising trust in the crucible of life’s uncertainties. As you are ready, God will reveal more of Himself. 

“I [Jesus] still have many things to say to you. You are not strong enough to understand them now” (John 16:12, NLV).

The security of knowing and doing the next right thing keeps you dependent on Jesus. The certainty of His presence allows you to surrender to Him. Oswald Chambers punctuates this idea: “As soon as we abandon ourselves to God and do the task He has placed closest to us, He begins to fill our lives with surprises.” The uncertain adventure of following Jesus is filled with surprises. Good surprises—surprises in the divine rewards of  trust in God in the face of uncertainty. What good surprises might your generous heavenly Father have in store for you His beloved child? Surprised by joy. Surprised by healing. Surprised by provision. Surprised by love. Heaven’s certain surprises smother the striving over life’s uncertainties, as your soul inhales sweet peace.

Trying to live a life of certainty is limited by your common sense and wisdom. But choosing to follow Christ through life’s uncertainties is resourced by the Lord’s living waters,  divinely imagining what might be. Focus on the certainty of your belovedness and allow your capacity to love to expand your Kingdom focus. Certainly, the man of sorrows is with you in your pain. Certainly, your loving heavenly Father stands with open arms to forgive and celebrate with you. Certainly, your helper and guide, the Holy Spirit, will show you the way. Certainty in God grows confidence, confidence feeds faith, faith grows hope, hope lives at peace. 

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14:27).

Transformed

As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance. . . 1 Peter 1:14 

Transformed. I like the sound of that word, don’t you? Webster’s Dictionary defines it this way: to change (something) completely and usually in a good way. See what I mean? Great word. 

There’s a lot of confusion out there about being transformed. Do we do it, or does God do it? Do we wait for Him to change us, or do we change ourselves? Ultimately, we are in control of very little. But there are some things that we can control. Could our own transformation be one of those things? 

Romans 12:2 gives us perspective on these questions. This verse says, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” If our personal transformation was something we have zero control over, if it was something God  alone was in charge of and we were little lumps without a will, this command would not be in Scripture. But there it is—and it’s a great reminder that our personal transformation is something we are called to actively participate in. Transformation is not a call to passivity. It’s a call to action. It’s not a call to sit back and say that we can’t do this or that and wait for God to show up to do all our spiritual work for us. 

I recently read a meme on the Internet that said, “Some things don’t need prayer, they need discipline. God already told you what to do, you’re just procrastinating.” Ouch. Did you feel that too? When we continue to call out to God when He has already given us the power to do what we need to do, it can be a sign of owning a victim mentality. A victim mentality can make us abdicate the responsibilities and power Christ has given us to live an overcoming life. 

When God made the bird, He made it capable of finding its own food. Imagine if the bird were to sit in its nest and cry out, “God, please bring me food!” the bird would not be acting in accordance with how it has been created. We are the same. There are some things we can control, and some things we can’t. Our personal transformation falls into the first category as we participate in the renewing of our minds as Romans 12:2 indicates we can do. 

I don’t know about you, but this truth makes me want to shout “Hallelujah!” This means we are not victims. We are not incapable. We don’t have to wait around feeling bad about ourselves. There is power in the way we think, and we can have sinful thoughts or God thoughts and God is saying, “You have a choice. Be transformed!” 

So, choosing to be transformed is a first step, then asking ourselves what we can do to be transformed is the next step, and then finally, taking that step toward transformation is the final step. 

What step are you going to take today? 

“Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is” (Ephesians 5:17).

Marveled

When Jesus heard it, He marveled, and said to those who followed, “Assuredly, I say to you, I have not found such great faith, not even in Israel…And He marveled because of their unbelief. Then He went about the villages in a circuit, teaching. Matthew 8:10; Mark 6:6, NKJV 

Jesus marvels at us! He is either marveling at our great faith, as in the case of the Roman soldier's faith, or He marvels at our unbelief, similar to His hometown community who only saw their local resident as a good man but surely not the Son of God. And what does marvel mean? To marvel is to draw attention, to cause someone to pause, usually with awe, but it can be one astonished or surprised by unexpected behavior. Interestingly, there is a connection to how we marvel at the Lord’s work around us as evidence of either a great faith, a fragile faith, or no faith at all. With eyes of faith, we can see clearly His healing, His forgiveness, His creation, and His love. Are your life, love, and faith a marvel to God, or does your anemic unbelief astonish Him?

Surprisingly, Jesus complimented a military man who represented tyrannical foreign occupation as a person with great faith. His great faith was evident when with humility, he described himself as a man under authority. With love and compassion for his paralyzed servant, he showed great faith when he asked Jesus to heal him. Amazed by what He heard, the Lord made whole the lame servant…virtually healed, without Jesus being present in person. On another occasion, in the presence of those He grew up with…Jesus marveled at how they did not take Him seriously. Their lack of faith could not get past the reality that Jesus was a big deal…the Lamb of God come to take away their sins. Amazed by their unbelief, Jesus made His way among the villages teaching salvation in Him. Yes, unexpectantly, great faith by a generous Gentile (the Centurion oversaw the local synagogue construction) …Jesus marveled. Equally stunning was the unbelief of His Jewish friends…Jesus marveled. Faith can fizzle in familiarity or be aflame in daring to trust God.

“Lord, I believe; help my unbelief” (Mark 9:24, NKJV).

If your unbelief has caused Christ to marvel at your lack of faith, you can turn to Him for help. There is a potent prayer to help believers who are in need of bold belief, “Lord, I believe, help my unbelief!” Confessing a faith that has become fragile, even forgotten, and asking for a restoration of belief is a prayer God gladly answers. Like David cried out, “Restore to me the joy of my salvation!” With a humble heart, petition heaven for a heart on fire for faith in Jesus, and the Holy Spirit will ignite you with divine reinforcements of love. Trauma can easily mute what were vibrant prayers pulsating with hopeful expectations. If pain has squeezed dry your faith, pray for your heavenly Father to help your unbelief. Submit to the healing truth of Scripture. 

Or, if your bold belief has caused Christ to marvel, you can keep thanking Him for His faithful love in your life. And you can reciprocate…marvel at the Lord’s generous work in your life. “This was the Lord’s doing; It is marvelous in our eyes” (Psalm 118:23). Celebrate successes as the Lord’s doing; give Him the credit for your accomplishments. Be still; Jesus sits with you in sweet fellowship to bring healing to you and those you love. Whatever your season of life, like the Centurion, humble yourself as you are under God’s authority and earthly authority. Marvel. Never get over that once you were lost, but now you are found. “How marvelous!”, He says.

“The man answered and said to them, “Why, this is a marvelous thing, that you do not know where He is from; yet He has opened my eyes” (John 9:30, NKJV)!

God desires to use you

For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen. Romans 11:36 

A little story time today. I once met a woman named Rosemary who was angry and disappointed over a friend’s success. “She is receiving promotion after promotion. She is doing in her ministry career what I want to do in mine. I have prayed. I have asked God to help me use my gifts and talents serving Him the same way she is serving Him, but nothing has happened. Any time I try anything, I get shut down. I feel like God has forgotten me and I don’t have any value in the body of Christ.” 

As I spoke with Rosemary, I realized she was missing three important truths: 

First, God doesn’t grant anyone favor simply based on our performance (or prayers). And, if we think he should, we may struggle with deep anger and disappointment. Instead, He will give us what is best for us. And that may mean He doesn’t give us what He gives someone else. 

In his book, The Prodigal God, Timothy Keller writes: 

If you think goodness and decency is the way to merit a good life from God, you will be eaten up with anger, since life never goes the way we wish. You will always feel you are owed more than you are getting. You will always see someone doing better in some aspect of life and ask, ‘Why this person and not me? After all I’ve done!’ This resentment is your own fault. It is caused not by the prosperity of the other person, but by your own effort to control life through your performance.

Next, God gives His children different assignments. 

The kingdom of God is like a farmer’s field and each of us has been given a patch to work and to tend. One person has been given a large patch; another has been allotted a smaller assignment. One person works in a noticeable part of God’s field, another in a less visible part. One person works here; another works there. But all assignments are important. 

Rosemary failed to see that God’s grace—or His unmerited favor—empowers us to do what He has assigned us to do. But where grace is absent, you won’t be able to move that mountain. That means that while others around you may be gifted to serve in one way, you will be gifted to serve in another. 

If you have ever felt you have gotten short changed, don’t waste your precious time envying someone else’s accomplishments. Know that the Lord has a plan for you to serve Him in a unique way. 

Finally, if God closes the door, He still wants to use you. 

As Keller mentioned, life never entirely goes the way we wish. When it doesn’t, and when God closes doors, it means He has plans to use us in other ways. No one is ineffective.  We all have value. We all have a patch of field in God’s Kingdom to work and as we submit to His plans, He will show us the way to serve Him best. 

If you can relate to this message, will you serve the way God desires and submit to His plan? Will you let go of the notion that He must love others more who are doing what you want to do? Will you trust that you are deeply loved, valuable and priceless to Him? 

“For the Lord of hosts has purposed, and who will annul it? His hand is stretched out, and who will turn it back” (Isaiah 14:27) 

Becoming a believer

 And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins. 1 Corinthians 15:17

How do we become a Christian? Belief in the death of Christ and the resurrection of Christ for our sins. The cross of Jesus justified our forgiveness and the resurrection of Jesus validated our forgiveness. The God ordained miracle of bringing Jesus back to life after three days in the grave is the foundation of our faith. The risen Lord is evidence of His life fully alive in His followers. A person who claims to be a Christian but denies Christ rose from the grave is still lost in his sins. He only deceives himself. Faith in Jesus is based on His miraculous resurrection.

Paul gives a compelling argument to the necessity of believing in the resurrection as foundational for our faith. Preaching without the forgiveness of the cross and the power of the resurrection is a farce, fake and hellish in its outcome. Faith without the resurrection is faithless led astray by the most recent spiritual fad. If Christ is not risen from the dead we are false witnesses to what really happened and face no resurrection, no hope after we die. When we embrace the historical fact of Christ's resurrection we are forgiven, alive and envied by evil doers.

"God will credit righteousness—for us who believe in him who raised Jesus our Lord from the dead. He was delivered over to death for our sins and was raised to life for our justification" (Romans 4:24-25).

Have you settled in your heart and mind the reality of the Lord Jesus' resurrection? If not ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to your soul the sweet love of Christ who is alive and ever interceding to His Father in heaven on your behalf. Don't be dismayed by modern atheists who attack your faith by belittling your beliefs. There will always be those who seek to justify their conduct and convince their conscience that Christ was not who He claimed to be. The lost love company. Pray for those who dismiss Christianity to be drawn to Jesus. You know better, you know Him.

Prayer time with the risen Lord is an eternal investment. He reminds you what's most important in this life and in the life to come. The more you are vulnerable with Jesus the more you will get to know Jesus and the more your trust in Him will grow. The more your trust in Him grows, the more faithfully and passionately you will follow Christ. The resurrection of Jesus is your solid rock of faith: unmovable, alive, miraculous, comforting and necessary to be a Christian.  

"And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again" (2 Corinthians 5:15).

Deception

The eye of the adulterer watches for dusk; he thinks, ‘No eye will see me,’ and he keeps his face concealed. In the dark, men break into houses, but by day they shut themselves in; they want nothing to do with the light.     Job 24:15-16

Everyone has a dark side that flirts with your feelings and tries to lead you astray. It is ironic that your dark side engenders fear and, at the same time, a false and hollow hope. However, there is nothing about your dark side that is good. It is always attempting to seduce you into your old way of thinking and doing. It wants to pull a dark cloud over your soul and rain down discontentment and confusion. The dark side is filled with demons of discouragement seeking to seduce you into poor and even foolish decision-making. It knows that one devastating decision can mark you for a lifetime. The dark side offers the illusion that adultery is harmless and recreational. It reasons with you that in the cloak of darkness, no one will ever find out. You are led to believe that enough lies can cover up your dark deeds.

 

That, of course, is the sort of fiction you’d find in a romance novel. The light will eventually pierce the darkness and, like a scattering roach, you will be exposed. But there is nowhere you can go where God is not present. He is light; so in darkness, the light of His love exposes you. Why crouch in a dark corner of carnality, when you can be free in the light of Christ? Darkness promises freedom but delivers bondage. The promise of God is grace, which results in faith’s freedom. Christ is light in the darkness, and His word is your flashlight of faith. In Him, darkness recoils.

 

“You may be sure that your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23).

 

Your dark side will hound you until you get to heaven. So, in the meantime, it is imperative to live in the light. Live in the light of God’s love, for that’s where you are accepted and kept secure; Live in the light of accountability, for that’s where you have boundaries from the edge of darkness; Live in the light of Christian community, for that’s where others can pray for you and with you; Live in the light of God’s Word, for that’s where you gain His wisdom and perspective. Simply live in the light of Christ, and He will repel the relentless rampage of your dark side. Therefore, do not tamper with the temptations of your dark side alone, or you may suffer the scars of sin’s consequences.

 

You can only gain authentic energy and excitement in the light. This far exceeds the artificial tantalizing that comes from submission to the dark side’s temptations. No sin can be hidden from God, no matter how concealed it may seem in the deepest corner of darkness. Wise ones submit to the light rather than to the deceptive dark side. The dark side is full of unpleasant surprises, while the route of the Holy Spirit offers pleasant ones. Walk away from the dangers of the dark side. Nothing there is worth the energy and the horrific hurt that accompanies its mission. Tell someone today your deepest, darkest secrets. Exposure is the enemy of your dark side. Freedom in Christ comes from accountability with other Christ-followers. Walk in the light together, as overcomers with God and people.  Alone, you backslide into your dark side. Therefore, surround yourself with lovers of the light. In the light, you get it right.

 

“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin” (1 John 1:7).

Healing tongue

 A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. Proverbs 15:4, ESV

What comes to mind when you hear the word “gentle”? Perhaps it is someone who was or is in your life, modeling the essence of a kind or wholesome disposition. To be gentle, in our minds, is closely linked to words, deeds, and actions that are soft-spoken and soothing. It is the opposite of aggressive, harsh, or demanding. 

In Proverbs 15, a gentle tongue is compared to “a tree of life.” Gentleness is closely connected to and meant to produce life. We see this even in the footnotes of our translation of this passage, which notes that “gentle” can also be translated “healing.” To be gentle is to bring healing and life to others.

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” Proverbs 12:18 

Often we underestimate the impact our words have on others, using them freely without thought or reflection. Yet as Proverbs also reminds us, wisdom invites intentional reflection upon the words we use, never responding rashly from an impassioned heart. It is good and wise to look back upon the words we used, perhaps acknowledging ways we have brought pain or harm to others and seeking reconciliation and forgiveness whenever possible. However, take time to cultivate a habit of intentional reflection and preparation before interactions with others ever take place!

One of the most helpful practices I have adopted in recent years is an intentional reflection upon my daily schedule at the very beginning of each day. Whatever your life may hold, in one way or another, you likely will interact with someone other than yourself: a spouse, children, friends, co-workers, or random strangers at the store. Begin each day by opening your heart to these individuals, and ask yourself the question, “How can I bring healing to these people through the words that I use?”

The more we grow in this practice, the more effective we will be at offering healing to others. Of course, there are generic words of healing that are rooted in kindness and mercy. Yet when we truly know others and share life with them, we are aware of the wounds that they carry, the sorrows of their heart that may not be easily visible, and as such, we are able to share the healing love of God with them through the wise use of our words.

Capacity building

To one he gave five talents of money, to another two talents, and to another one talent, each according to his ability.  Matthew 25:15

Capacity is the ability Christ gives us to carry out His commands. And capacity varies from person to person. Some people can get by on five to six hours of sleep while others require seven to eight. Where I get out of balance is when I compare my capacity with someone of greater capacity. Indeed, capacity is meant to provide guardrails, not guilt.

So how can we use capacity to our advantage instead of our disadvantage? How can we understand our limitations and trust the Lord with the results? It starts by being honest about how God has made us. If we can only execute one project with excellence, then we limit ourselves to one. If we only have the time, money, and love for two children, then we accept this as the responsible decision. Honesty about capacity is freeing for parents.

But isn’t there a way to build capacity at work, at home, and in relationships? Yes, indeed! As we remain faithful with small responsibilities, the Lord and others can trust us with additional tasks. When we manage a small amount of money on a budget, we can be trusted with more resources to steward well. When we treat one individual with a full complement of grace and truth, we build relational capacity for more quality friendships.

Furthermore, we are over capacity when cash in our bank account is overdrawn or when we have written a relational check our emotions cannot cash. Therefore, monitor your capacity in prayer before Jesus. Ask Him for courage to say no to something new so we can say yes to current obligations. As in weight lifting, we can increase our mental, emotional, financial, and relational capacity, but it takes time, focus, and discipline.

The Lord has unlimited capacity for empathy, wisdom, and character. So go to Him for your character-capacity building. Make sure your character capacity keeps up with your success, and you will be able to handle success. Does your heart have the same capacity for humility as your mind does for truth? So build capacity around Christ’s gifts to you.

“We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. We, however, will not boast beyond proper limits, but will confine our boasting to the field God has assigned to us, a field that reaches even to you” (2 Corinthians 10:12–13).

Out do each other

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10, ESV

We live in a culture of winners and losers. You can win a championship in sports, win on the stock market, and win political races. And all too often, in order to win we must exploit the weakness and shortcomings of others, usually to their shame and disrespect. Increasingly it seems this is a steam train that is only picking up more and more speed. Our public discourse is at an all-time low, with basic human decency thrown out the window, instead replaced with below the belt punches whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Sadly, this same spirit is often seen within the family of faith. In the name of defending our beliefs or even God himself, we frequently lose sight of the dignity and worth of “the other,” reducing them to positions or actions with which we disagree. Of course, we may have good reason and sure foundations for our disagreement, yet frequently our need to win trumps our commitment to humility and honor, even in the face of disagreement.

St. Paul often used competitive language in his letters, urging the early Christians on in the race of faith. And yet, we must not miss the fact that his vision of “the prize” was wildly different than what we so often accept as worthy of our time and devotion. For Paul, “winning” was closely tied to a commitment to elevate and honor others, even at great personal expense. If and when we strive to beat someone else, to “outdo” them in biblical terms, the competition is squarely built upon our unwavering resolve to honor one another.

It is relatively easy to honor people we deem worthy of honor. This may be a beloved public figure or faith leader, or it can be as intimate as a parent, sibling, or spouse. We tie their worthiness of honor to their beliefs, accomplishments, or intimate proximity. Yet, and this is key, how do we honor the humanity of those with whom we profoundly disagree, or those who have wounded and betrayed our confidence and trust? Honor in these cases does not mean we ignore or dismiss the disagreements or betrayals. However, as forgiven and reconciled sinners, we too must view others through this lens, refusing to say that any person is fully defined by their faults, but is instead a human being made in God’s image, and therefore worthy of honor and a belief that even their greatest shortcomings can be healed and transformed by the all-consuming fire of God.